Coaching for Change

RECEIVING COMPLIMENTS One evening I was Coaching a student of mine for Public Speaking when her 4-year-old sister came in. " Hello Dear ..... you have such beautiful big brown eyes," I said. Immediately, the child's eyes lit up, became bigger and her face became bright with an angelic smile. And softly she said "Thank you" I knew instantly my compliment had been received, accepted and appreciated. On my way back from the session, I was on Whatsapp and happened to notice a profile picture of a friend of mine with her child. "Both of you are glowing. Beautiful display picture" I wrote to her. Within seconds I got a reply " Glowing because of the sunrise that time" Her reply made me wonder... - why do we try to give reasons when we get complimented? - why do we try to compliment back? - why do we try to negate it? A genuine compliment means the giver has taken out time to notice you and found something about you that...

What are Soft Skills? Consider this scenario: You are new to a place and you fall sick. Since you do not know of any doctors, you decide to go to the nearest Clinic. After waiting patiently for your turn for about 30 minutes, you are called in. The middle aged doctor scans you through his thick glasses and asks “What are you here for?” It takes you a couple of seconds to realize you are being asked for your symptoms. You inform him of all your aches and pains. When you pause, he simply looks down at his notepad…scribbles a few notes and says “ok. Wait for the medicine outside.” The serious look on his face too intimidating for you to ask “But can you at least tell me what’s wrong with me?” You collect the medicine but not satisfied, you seek another doctor hoping this doctor would divulge more than just dispensing medicine. As you enter the doctor’s chamber, you are greeted with a warm smile. The symptoms are asked. While the doctor is scribbling on his note pad, he tells you...